Settled is a state-of-mind.
This is a revelation I came to last week. My heart’s desire is to be settled. I’ve said “Yes, Lord, we will go wherever in the world you lead… As long as we can stay there.”
Since getting married, we’ve moved around a lot more than I ever imagined. In this season since moving back to Nashville of transition and waiting and not knowing where we’ll go next, we’ve been frustrated. Will we stay in Nashville? Will our house ever sell? Will we go back to one of our hometowns? Or will we go on a new adventure? Only God and time will tell.
After sitting in life’s waiting room, I just want to get where we’re going and plant roots. I want Cy to start kindergarten next year in the school system that he’ll graduate from. (Yeah, right!)
I’ve thought this was a small request – given the fact that after years of kicking and screaming I’ve said this can be anywhere as long as it’s mostly permanent.
Then it hit me. Settled is a state-of-mind.
A lot of families move around. And they have well-adjusted, cultured children as a result. Could this be so bad?
How would my life change if I embraced this way of life? I could be content now regardless of my circumstances, for starters, and provide this attitude for our children.
What if our ministry does move around every few years? I know my heart’s cry has been to settle down and give my kids life-long friends and roots, but what if that’s a sacrifice we’ve been asked to make?
“Then a teacher of the law came to him and said, ‘Teacher, I will follow you wherever you go.’ Jesus replied, ‘Foxes have dens and birds have nests, but the Son of Man has no place to lay his head.’ Another disciple said to him, ‘Lord, first let me go and bury my father.’ But Jesus told him, ‘Follow me, and let the dead bury their own dead.’” Matthew 8:19-22 (NIV)
We’ve met some incredible people along the way and made some great friends. Who else could be out there that we are supposed to cross paths with?
Cleve and I each have a purpose and we have even bigger purpose TOGETHER. I don’t want to miss out on that purpose because I was too stubborn to give up some comfort. I want our kids to see an example of parents who followed God’s path wherever it led and gave them love and stability in the midst of an at-times chaotic life.
“Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 37:4
“He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain that which he cannot lose.” -Jim Elliot
“Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, ‘Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?’ And I said, ‘Here am I. Send me!’ … Then I said, “For how long, Lord?” And he answered: ‘Until the cities lie ruined and without inhabitant..’” Isaiah 6:8, 11
God gave an answer, but it wasn’t an easy or uncomplicated one.
So, here we go. Peace in my mind and heart so that I can provide stability for our family.